Sponsored Video: Quantity and Quality of Time Spent with Our Family
I’ve always heard the saying, ‘It’s not about the quantity. It’s more about the quality of time.’
Someone shared with me sometime back, … 2 situations commonly found in families:
Mommy A spends 4-5 hours a day with her kids, on weekdays.
She is engaged on her phone almost all the time, not communicating much with her kids though she’s physically there with them.
Mommy B spends an average of 20 minutes a day with her kids, on weekdays,.
While with her children, she totally devotes her time and energy for them.
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She said that out of the two above, she personally feels Mommy B is a better Mom.
Because although the ‘quantity’ is 20 minutes a day, she spends it well.
‘The quality is what matters most, not the quantity’, she said.
[Being silly with the kids? Yes, sometimes we may need to =)]
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If you ask me, I can’t quite say which one is better, because things are generally not as simple as they seem.
(It’s of course easier to finger-point other moms, and say this mother is better, THAT mother is worse, and so on)
As an ‘outsider’, how is it possible to really know the struggles and reasons behind other people’s actions?
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To me, every family is unique.
Every situation a mother faces is unique.
And really, the best person who knows the true situation and motivation of one’s action is … the person himself / herself.
(Hmm, … and God, the devil and our own conscience?)
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What I truly believe is this though:
In whatever we do, to achieve good quality in anything, … quantity is also needed, because quantity is equally important.
eg. To be able to play tennis or the piano well, the child needs to spend lots of ‘quantity of time’ to practice and practice and practice regularly.
To know a person better (eg. Before we marry the guy!), we need to spend a good quantity of time to get to know him, chat, communicate, exchange thoughts, discuss, etc.
The same goes with our family, I feel.
We need to spend a good quantity of time with our family, with our children, in order to get to know them better, in order for THEM to know US better, in order to build that trust, communication and relationship.
[A photo taken by Brie from across the MRT train]
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And, here’s what I also wanted to say:
WE know our situation best, don’t we?
It’s really not for others to say and decide.
So.
May I encourage fellow moms to do some self-reflection today?
To see our role and involvement in our family, in the lives of our children.
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Let’s continually strive to do our best, in whatever situations that we are in.
Let’s improve on things, whenever we can.
Let’s create memories.
Let’s treasure our children.
While we still can.
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Btw, while we’re on the topic of ‘Mothers’ and spending time with the kids, I’d like to share this video with you.
(The clip is in Indonesian)
And here are two other similar clips (the Daddy and Brother series) you may want to check out too:
Daddy
https://youtu.be/cw8dA0z5XiE
Brother
https://youtu.be/ngDYG0Guc8E
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Have a wonderful week ahead, everyone!
PS: The post has been sponsored by Permata but all the thoughts are mine
