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Being Extra Aware of What We Share Publicly

26 July 2017 – 12:44 pm |

 
In Jakarta, such ‘family’ stickers are commonly spotted on cars. Often, with names of family members printed for all to see😬
So much personal information is shared ‘publicly’ these days, and actually, even more on social …

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Being Extra Aware of What We Share Publicly

26 July 2017 | Posted in: Parenting | No Comment


 
In Jakarta, such ‘family’ stickers are commonly spotted on cars. Often, with names of family members printed for all to see😬

So much personal information is shared ‘publicly’ these days, and actually, even more on social mediaSo much personal information is shared ‘publicly’ these days, and actually, even more on social media.

Information on like:

– where I am right now (using the feature ‘check in’ and posting it on Facebook)

– which school the kids go to (known from photos of child in school uniform, recognisable uniform patterns, school logo on uniforms, posing next to school’s entrance, school stickers on car, etc)

– where the family lives (known from wide-angled photos inside the home or around the housing area with visible street names, answers to friends’ comments left on FB status asking about where they live, apartment stickers on car’s windscreen, etc)

– what vehicle we drive (photos of our car with visible colour, car model, plate numbers, etc)
 


 

If the privacy setting of our social media account is ‘public’, then EVERYONE can view everything that we post. And that’s everyone, including those with ‘bad intentions’ =(

Eg. Someone can view our public post on FB, go to where we are at that moment, spot us in the restaurant, follow our vehicle home, get more info about us from our car stickers, etc etc …

For the sake of our family’s safety, let’s review and be aware of the kinds of info we post onlineInfo we post online (and stickers on our car) can unintentionally create extra danger to our family (especially, our kids!)

For the sake of our family’s safety, let’s review and be aware of the kinds of info we post online and the types of stickers we place on our vehicle?

Because.

While we cannot avoid danger, wouldn’t we want to reduce the potential by exercising better care over our social media posts, especially if we live in Indonesia? (ie. Not making our personal info so readily accessible by strangers)
 

 
Quick tips:

– Post black and white photos of kids in school uniforms (yes, however cute they look like in their school uniforms). And, do ‘blur’ the school logo, or paste a cute ‘sticker’ over the school logo.

– Avoid using the feature ‘check in’ that tells the world your exact location at a particular time

– Avoid pasting car stickers that reveal personal info like names, where you work, kids’ schools, your residence, etc

– Avoid posting photos that reveal personal details like home numbers and street names, car’s plate numbers, etc.

– Avoid discussing private details on social media comments (eg. Stating personal phone number, home address, school details, etc)

 
Stay safe, everyone!

Thoughts: It’s NOT about How Long We Live

23 July 2017 | Posted in: Inspirational | No Comment

‘Panjang umurnya … panjang umurnya … panjang umurnya serta mulia …’

When Indonesians celebrate birthdays, this is one of the songs they’d sing, which literally wishes the birthday person ‘a long life’.

As a Chinese, I hear such wishes often, too.

People would wish others a ‘long life’.

So is it ‘wrong’ to hope or wish that we live a long life?

Here are some thoughts I’d like to share with you.

Methuselah is the man believed to have lived the longest at the age of 969!

Despite his long life, only three verses in the Bible wrote about him (in Genesis 5:25-27).

Jesus lived for only 33 years, yet so much is written about Him. So much influence, so big an impact of His life on others.

It’s NOT about how long we liveFelix Mendelssohn, the famous German composer, conductor, pianist and organist, had family members who were a banker and a philosopher.

Amongst the three, Felix Mendelssohn is the ‘poorest’ financially. However, despite his lack of ‘financial wealth’, Felix Mendelssohn is the one most remembered over the decades.

It is Felix Mendelssohn’s works that people over the past century continue to enjoy, remember and re-create.

It’s more about realising that life is not about the amount of money we make, or the number of years we have altogetherThe point is, when we look at the countless living examples over the centuries, we can conclude that it’s NOT about ‘how long we live’.

It’s more about HOW we live our lives.

It’s not an issue of whether it is ‘wrong’ to wish for a long life.

It’s more about realising that life is not about the amount of money we make, or the number of years we have altogether.

What’s more important is whether we make any positive contribution in the lives of others, in the society, while we’re still alive.

No one knows how ‘long’ we’d live.

At a moment’s notice, things can change.

We have to have a mindset that ‘I will live this life so it has the most impact as possible’.

Food for thought for everyone?

Inspired by today’s sermon, by Rev. Michael Densmoor.

First Day of School: My School, My Responsibility.

17 July 2017 | Posted in: Parenting | No Comment


 
Two days ago Brie asked me,
‘How should I get my bag into the trunk and out of it when we reach school?’
(Her school bag is too heavy for her to lift and place into the trunk on her own)

‘Jie-jie Anya or Koko Vai will help you, then you can pull the trolley to school all on your own ya’, I replied.

I glanced at the siblings to let them know their ‘needed help’ when the littlest starts her school days.

Everyone understood.

No one will carry/pull ‘their’ bags for themFor all 3 kids, it’s all the same.

From the very first day they entered Kindergarten, they’re asked to care for their school bags.

Place bag inside the trunk and take bag out carefully, on their own.

No one will carry/pull ‘their’ bags for them.

Because, they are the ones going to school and they need to learn and be responsible for their belongings.

If the books are heavy, then they’ll use a ‘trolley bag’.

If they need help (like in Brie’s case), the siblings will help each other.

I guess it’s our little way of teaching them about responsibility, independence and helping one another.

It’s never too early and no one is too little to learn such values, yes?

Checking Out: Komodo Museum – Reptile Park (Taman Mini Indonesia Indah)


 
We don’t visit Taman Mini Indonesia Indah (TMII) often.

Actually, ever since we’ve moved to Jakarta back in 2012, I think we’ve only been to TMII err … 3 times?

I’d personally recommend it to tourists, though. And if you’re a local, I think it also is worth visiting with your family. At least once a year? TMII has a lot of places to see, and it’s a good place to learn more about Indonesia’s cultures.

ANYWAY.

The other day, we went to check out this Reptile Park (Taman Reptilia) at TMII.
 

 
The Reptile Park is open from 9am to 4pm and entrance fee is Rp25,000 per person

(Here’s the link to TMII’s entrance ticket prices >> http://tamanmini.com/page/tiket)
 

 
This place has a two-storey indoor exhibition area (where we could see various exhibits and read about frogs, toads, snakes, tortoises and lizards from different parts of the world), and an outdoor area, for viewing of live reptiles.

The dark room pictured below is actually located on the ‘outside’. It’s for live reptiles that mostly live at night, I guess.
 

 
The walkway towards this ‘dark exhibition area’ looks like it’s a pathway towards restrooms, though =(

And, the thought that crossed my mind each time we visit public parks/places of attraction in Indonesia came to mind again, ie. I really wish this place can be better managed and maintained, and the live animals are better cared for, because they are NOT just ‘exhibits’.
 

 
Btw, the park has this ‘Taman Sentuh’, a place where you can touch real reptiles (To hold an animal, and take photos with it, it costs Rp5000 per person).

Obviously crocodiles are not pets. What if this one happened to snap its jaw at our hands or fingers when we’re holding it?When we were there, the only animal available to be carried by the public was this crocodile, which despite its small size, was NOT a baby crocodile! It’s 3 years old, capable of growing to be very long, more than 2m, we were told.

Hmm.

Obviously crocodiles are not pets. What if this one happened to snap its jaw at our hands or fingers when we’re holding it?
 

 
The handler said, this crocodile is fed once a week, and it is day 5, so it is ‘safe’ to be handled.

Hmm.

The handler said, this crocodile is fed once a week, and it is day 5, so it is ‘safe’ to be handled. Hmm.
He said, actually after it is fed, it’s best not to be handled by the public, because the movements could could cause it to vomit.

(I saw how the handler was gentle with the croc, which was a good sign of someone who genuinely cared for the animal, I thought)

So we put our ‘faith’ on what he said =) and each of the kid got a chance to gently handle the crocodile.

Interesting how it really was ‘still’ (ie. Didn’t wriggle or move its tail much at all, but it looked alert, not sleepy).

The kids got to observe the crocodile up close, which was great, because they could see the mouth, the ‘closed up’ throat, the teeth, the layers of the crocodile eyes, the skin textures, etc.

(You see, I don’t expect all my kids to LOVE animals, but I hope they have positive encounters and are educated about them)

 

 
Anyway.

When it comes to handling animals, here’s one super important thing to note:

Please, please, educate our children (and ourselves) on the importance of handling all animals GENTLY!

Please educate our children (and ourselves) on the importance of handling all animals GENTLY
Don’t jerk the animals, or be rough.

Don’t scare them by our silly sounds and screams.

And please, do NOT DROP them!

They are living beings, NOT just ‘things’.

If our child is easily scared (unsure of handling an animal), perhaps it is best to NOT carry/lift the animals just yet. Gently petting the animals is a good learning experience, too. Reading more about it, its habitats, its habits, will also familiarise our kids with the animals

 

 
Unfortunately, I’ve seen too many incidents (happening in front of my very eyes), of children and adults not handling animals well (at petting zoos or ‘touch ponds’). Often, they do it ‘purposely’ because they thought it’s funny =(

Like:
– Picking up a starfish from a pond and recklessly throw it somewhere.
– Knocking on the glass window to wake a sleeping owl!
– Shining the flashlight from a smartphone to an animal’s eyes to make it ‘move’
– Throwing pebbles towards birds or animals, so that the animals can make some ‘noise’
– Scaring an animal in a cage with a loud ‘BOO!!!’

It’s really sad, and at the same time, annoying =(

One concern of mine:
When children treat animals in such a way, many parents do NOT say anything to correct/educate/rebuke them. Worse, they giggle along with the kids. Sigh. If you ask me, it’s most likely because the parents themselves think it is okay to treat animals in such a way.

Anyway.

Let’s educate ourselves and our children on the importance of caring for animals.

Because, although they are not humans, they do deserve proper handling and care by us humans, yes?

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