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Bamboo Bridge at Bagan Fajar, Tangerang : Encouraging Explorations of New Places

25 August 2015 – 12:45 pm |

 
This is us, walking down a super long (and old) bamboo bridge at Desa Muara, Tangerang, West Java.
It’s called ‘Bagan Fajar’, and the bridge is usually used by fishermen to go further towards the sea …

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Bamboo Bridge at Bagan Fajar, Tangerang : Encouraging Explorations of New Places

25 August 2015 | Posted in: Parenting, Places to Visit | No Comment

 

This is us, walking down a super long (and old) bamboo bridge at Desa Muara, Tangerang, West Java.

It’s called ‘Bagan Fajar’, and the bridge is usually used by fishermen to go further towards the sea when they go fishing. It’s also a way for them to board their fishing boats.

 

 

If you often see ‘Mind the Gap’ signages on Singapore trains, well … that is also something we must do here as we tread along the bamboo bridge =)

The kids didn’t seem to have any problems walking along the bridge though …

(Perhaps it’s because they’re used to being brought out to explore such places outdoors? May be)

 


 

Anyway.

I credit this adventure walk to my hubby who is always very open to exploring new places.

Like, when we reach a particular place (eg. A camping ground, or a fishing area), he’d usually be the one who checks out the surrounding, chats with the locals, and gets us all to explore new areas together as a family.

Instead of just arriving at one point and being familiar with just one particular spot, he gets us all to see the ‘bigger picture’ of the area.

And I appreciate that.

Because I’m sure, the kids too benefit a lot from such explorations of nature and new adventures.

Especially when the initiatives come from Daddy, the head of the family.

 

Is Keeping a Marriage Healthy and Alive THAT hard?

18 August 2015 | Posted in: Inspirational, Marriage & Relationships | 2 Comments

 

These days, we see an increase in marital issues that lead to separation and divorces.

Sad, but true.

Why do marriages break down in the first place?

Is keeping a marriage healthy and alive THAT hard?

Yes.

At least, I believe so.

Often, what happens is, the married man and woman have become moms and dads, and are no longer husbands and wivesWhen kids are little, all are busy with minding the kids.

Often, what happens is, the married man and woman have become moms and dads, and are no longer husbands and wives.

When they talk, the topic is most likely about the kids, their school, their misbehaviours that day, etc.

Life revolves around the kids. Everyday.

In other words, romance and enjoying each other’s company as a couple seem to be out the window to many. Because, well … by the end of each day, everyone is just so exhausted from focusing on everything else BUT their relationship with their spouse.

Now.

When the kids are all grown up, then … what happen to the husbands and wives IF they’ve never quite worked on their relationship and communication since the beginning?

Through out the many years of raising the children since they’re born, the ‘mom and dad’ forget to connect and build on their husband-wife relationship and communicationThe reality is, … many often find themselves feeling somewhat clueless and awkward with each other when left alone, ie. When the kids are no longer living in the same house.

Reason?

Most likely because, through out the many years of raising the children since they’re born, the ‘mom and dad’ forget to connect and build on their husband-wife relationship and communication.

While they’re busy with their daily chores, work and bonding with the kids, they’ve most probably forgotten to bond as a couple and enjoy each other’s company as ‘husband and wife’.

Self-sacrifice.

Putting others’ need before own.

Choosing to be quiet first at moments of anger.

Asking for forgiveness.

Respecting and loving our spouse.

Encouraging and showing appreciation.

Communicating and making an effort to always connect with our spouse.

These too are often forgotten.

Perhaps it’s also because they’re hard to do by self-centred people like us?

Electronic media and technology nowadays enter the homes and everyone’s daily lives, so much so that attention, time and energy are spent more on flat screens than on real peopleAdded to the above is the fact that electronic media and technology nowadays enter the homes and everyone’s daily lives, so much so that attention, time and energy are spent more on flat screens than on real people.

Anyway.

Food for thought.

Let’s reflect on ourselves, our relationships, and work HARD on our marriage.

Because, really, keeping a marriage that’s healthy and alive ’till death do us part’ IS hard.

May God help us and have mercy on us all.

Circles Event Cafe at Makati Shangri-La Hotel, Philippines

14 August 2015 | Posted in: Advertorial, Food & Health | No Comment

 

Do you live in Manila? Or do you plan to visit Manila in the near future?

Well, here’s one dining place I’d like to share with you : Circles Event Cafe at Makati Shangri-La Hotel.

(Just in case you’re not yet familiar with where Makati City is, it is about 7 km from Manila International Airport, also known as the Ninoy Aquino International Airport)

Click HERE to see the map of the hotel.

 

 

The five-star hotel is easily spotted as it is located near Makati City’s popular malls: Greenbelt, Landmark, Glorietta and SM.

And, it’s within a short walking distance to MRT (Metro Rail Transit) – Ayala Station.

 

 

We had their breakfast buffet at the Circles Event Cafe , twice, and it was (always) awesome! =)

I especially love how the Cafe is spacious, the food stations are orderly and neat, AND they offer such a wide range of food and drinks.

Okay, I’ll let my photos do the talking yeah =)

Here are some shots I took during our two breakfast sessions there at the Cafe!

 

 

Okay. I need to say something here.

The Japanese food station at the Cafe is my favourite! =)

I loveeee having my hot miso soup first thing in the morning.

And their miso soup is sooooo yummy.

Not to forget, their sashimi and sushi.

It was sooo good.

Fresh and good!

(Ah, if only I can describe what I eat and how they taste in better words. No wonder I’m not a food blogger!)

 


 

Cold appetisers. Seafood. Western cuisines. Asian. Desserts.

Fresh juices.

You name them. They have it.

 

 

Here’s some info to share with you, if you have kids:

If you stay at the hotel, your kids (under the age of 6) can enjoy complimentary buffet meals, if accompanied by a paying adult (up to a maximum of 2 children).  In excess of 2 children under the age of 6 and for all children above 6 and below 12, a 50% discount of the buffet price will be given.

If you’re not registered hotel guests, then 50% discount will be given on buffet meals for children under the age of 12.

 


 

So, there you go … Circles Event Cafe at Makati Shangri-La Hotel, Philippines.

Go and check it out with your friends and families yeah!

CIRCLES EVENT CAFE

Ground Floor, Makati Shangri-la, Manila

Contact No: 814-2580

www.facebook.com/MakatiShangrila

 

For more photos and stories on our Makati Shangri-La experience, click HERE!

Why Grand Theft Auto (GTA) Should NOT be Played, Especially by Children

12 August 2015 | Posted in: Parenting | 2 Comments

 

Let’s ask ourselves these three questions:

1. Do my children play video games, or any kind of games online, and freely access the internet?

2. Do I know the kind of games they play (on their own or with their friends)?

3. Am I aware of the kinds of ‘impact’ the games will have on my children?

I’d like to share with you one of today’s most popular games called ‘Grand Theft Auto’ or GTA.

It is known as a violent bestselling video game and its latest version (GTA V) allows players to do all ‘sorts of things’, from a player point of view.

Players are in 3D, enacting ‘real scenarios’.

If you haven’t heard about the game, or if you don’t know much about it, I’d really recommend that you search and find out more about what the game is about, today.

Because with this post, I’d like to share with you how this game is totally NOT for children.

Not for adults too, if you ask me.



Here are some of the reasons WHY:

> This game glorifies crime and violence. 

As the player, you can hit, kill, butcher others, violently. Players are regularly exposed to killing acts, blood and gore.

 
> This game contains strong and explicit s*xual content

Seriously? Like …. what could possible be done in a game children play these days?‘, you may wonder.

Any sane parents out there feel this is all okay and ‘MERE ENTERTAINMENT’ for their children, since ‘it is just VIRTUAL’?Here is just one example:

GTA V allows the players watch as a prostitute (or someone’s wife) performs s*x acts on them! Complete with explicit images and sounds! Audio represents the player AND the prostitute during the s*x act!

And wait, there’s more:
Apparently the players can AFTERWARDS murder the prostitute – gruesomely - and take back their money.

GTA V allows players to use their game controller to rape, kill, beat women, hire prostitutes, visit strip clubs, cheat on their spouse, amongst many other acts.

Seriously, I don’t know if any sane parents out there actually feel this is all okay and ‘MERE ENTERTAINMENT’ for their children, since ‘it is just VIRTUAL’? (read : It’s not like they actually are doing it, right?)

 

3. Constantly strong languages

When researching about this game, I only needed to listen to ONE minute of a GTA V gameplay clip on Youtube to decide that such vulgarities / crude dialogues should never be heard or accepted as ‘normal talks and behaviours’ by children.

At least not by ‘my’ children.

Regardless of whether we have any faith in anything or not, would we watch an R-rated movie with our young children? Parents,

Do we know what’s going on in our children’s lives?

Do we nurture and build a strong relationship and open communication with our children, so much so that we can discuss the danger of such games (and the virtual world in general) with them?

I feel something is just so wrong if children (or even adults) can :
- laugh at a sight of someone being butchered or shot to death
- chuckle and find it funny upon seeing an old woman being hit by a car
- feel it is okay to rape and torture someone since it is just a ‘virtual game’

Now.

“What if the player is a 13-year-old and the parent said:
‘My son knows what’s right from wrong, and he knows what is reality and what is fantasy! Other kids who don’t play GTA also can turn out to be worse than kids who play!’

To such parents I’d probably reply:

As a parent, I know I’m accountable to God for everything that I do and say to my childrenIt is entirely up to the parents to decide what is best for their children. Others can write and say about anything, and at the end of the day, it’s each to their own. 

It’s just I would choose to do things differently though.

Because even if I know what’s right from wrong, … I believe what I play, watch, listen and read are like ‘food to my mind, heart and soul’.

If I wouldn’t touch rubbish with my bare hands, if I wouldn’t put rubbish into my mouth, then why would I feed rubbish into my mind, heart and soul?

Yes, our children can turn out to be ‘anything’ as they grow up (may God have mercy). They are not robots. 

But as a parent, I know I’m accountable to God for everything that I do and say to my children. And this game (and I’m sure there are heaps more out there) is one kind of exposure I believe would do more damage than good.

I don’t know about what you believe in.

But regardless of whether we have any faith in anything or not, would we watch an R-rated movie with our young children?

Would we allow our children to visit strip clubs, kill, steal and rape?

If we disallow such acts to be done in the real world, then why doing them in the virtual world be any different?

The thoughts, intentions, or worse ‘pleasure’, from such acts are real, though done virtually.

(Click HERE to read the article on dailymail.co.uk where teachers report parents who let their kids play GTA to the police)

I myself am a Christian Mom, and I find such games to be in total conflict with the faith that I have in Christ.

Many may disagree with me, but to me personally, exposure to such games is tremendously destructive to one’s mind and heart.

Parents,

This is the kind of world that we live in. The kind of world that our children live in.

May God have mercy on us all and protect our little ones from harm, be it in the real world, or virtual.

Vai : 30 months

20 February 2009 | Posted in: Daily, Parenting | 9 Comments
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Vai turns two-and-a-half years old today.
He talks quite a lot now (in Indonesian) and he likes to describe what he sees. If we walk past a cat, he can say things like, ‘Mommy! Mommy! Look! …

Between the two

17 October 2007 | Posted in: Parenting | No Comment
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Being a Mom of two, I personally find it a daily challenge to be able to juggle and spend time ‘equally’ and wisely with the two kids.
Vai being the younger one who still needs a …

Handling Terrible Two Tantrums

25 May 2013 | Posted in: Parenting | 5 Comments
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Brie is now 2 years old.
And I’m treasuring this.
She’s cuddly and loves to cuddle and give us all a big hug.
She’s absorbing her world so fast.
She has SO much to say, but she still speaks …

Thoughts : Married to Our Spouse, Not to Our Children

6 June 2013 | Posted in: Inspirational, Marriage & Relationships | No Comment
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When we become parents, the reality is, children will demand a lot of our time and energy.
Breastfeeding / bottle-feeding them, preparation of meals, feeding, bathing and playtime, changing of diapers, dealing with tantrums and behaviours.
Not …

Parenting : Preventing Children from Playing Parents against Each Other

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[Daddy is often 'more fun' than Mommy, but as parents they must always be on the 'same team'!]
 
Have you heard or come across a situation like this :
> A child ASKS one parent for something
> …

Thoughts : Relationships

25 October 2007 | Posted in: Marriage & Relationships, Parenting | No Comment
Thoughts : Relationships

I was SO inspired by today’s sharing at our Women’s Fellowship.
Here’re some thoughts I’d like to share with you.
>> Family is an institution, a unit, that God Himself has established. And at the very core, …