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8 Positive Things to SHOW to Our Children

20 November 2014 – 1:13 pm | One Comment

 
I don’t know about you, but as I go about my day to day busyness, sometimes I do need parenting reminders.
Because amidst everything that I need to do everyday, I can unconsciously forget even the …

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8 Positive Things to SHOW to Our Children

20 November 2014 | Posted in: Inspirational, Parenting | One Comment

 

I don’t know about you, but as I go about my day to day busyness, sometimes I do need parenting reminders.

Because amidst everything that I need to do everyday, I can unconsciously forget even the simplest things that I need to do FOR and WITH my kids.

Well. This is what I’d like to share today:

A simple list of 8 things I’d like to show to my kids.

Here goes.

1. Show our kids HOW TO help out in the kitchen, instead of telling them to stay away

2. Show loving affection to our spouse in front of them

3. Show how looking after ourselves (even if we’re THE Mom who does things for everyone else!) is important too

4. Show, PATIENTLY, how to do something step-by-step (though you most likely need to repeat the steps)

 

 

5. Show respectful attitude towards others, at all times

6. Show confidence in doing things that we believe as right (even when most others choose to disagree)

7. Show how to make that silly monkey face – yes, the one you know you’re very good at!

8. Show how we too can make mistakes, and each time that we do, we learn from it, ask for forgiveness, bounce back up, and move on with life.

Anyway.

There’re actually a whole lot more than just eight things. Of course.

I just thought I share eight of them today =)

Perhaps you’ve already shown all of the above to your kids.

Perhaps you’d like to share and add more to the list? *most welcome, btw*

All I wish to say is, … let’s remind each other and show more kindness to our children, AND try our best to be a positive living example for them.

Everyday.

May God help us.

m4s0n501

I’m Back from My Longest Ever ‘Break’ from Being a ‘Mom’!

18 November 2014 | Posted in: Daily, Inspirational, Parenting | One Comment

 

Hello world!

I’m back!

Just in case you’ve just started reading my blog, … here’s a quick update:

I’ve just returned from my never-ever-been-done-before 6-day trip to Cebu and Bohol, in the Philippines! =)

(When I said, I’ve never ever done this before, I’m saying, I’ve never ever been away THIS long from my family)

And you know what?

The trip was SO timely, and such a needed one for me!

Well, you see … in the past few weeks prior to the trip, I’ve just been SO extra exhausted – mentally, physically and emotionally.

Every single day, I felt drained and tired.

After close to 11 years of being a ‘Mom’, I suddenly was alone, away from my daily routinesThe kids were somehow extra challenging everyday.

And I was … grumpy.

I snapped easily at the kids.

And easily impatient towards tantrums, bickering, whines and cries.

It was hard to laugh and joke around.

(I guess, the fact that my husband was away overseas for 8 days prior to my trip made my ‘solo-parenting’ days even more overwhelmingly tough)

So. There you are.

The bitter reality of parenting.

And yes, this Mom blogger who ‘writes about the ups and downs of parenting in a hope to inspire others’ apparently went through the lows of parenting.

For weeks in a row.


[Changi Airport, Singapore]

 

So as you can imagine, this bloggers trip to Cebu and Bohol was such a refreshing break that came ‘just in time’.

After close to 11 years of being a ‘Mom’, I suddenly was alone, away from my daily routines, for 6 days.

It did feel weird at first. But I guess, the break was exactly what I needed.

In the end, I should choose which ones I need to treasure more. And to those, I should channel more energy and time!Anyway.

Here’re my thoughts when I was away:

I felt I haven’t been loving enough towards the kids.

I felt guilty, of not enjoying my days with them.

Although kids ARE kids, and they have reasons for behaving badly, … I should also be more patient towards them.

My days will always be filled with traffic jams, endless work deadlines, piles of laundry, meals to cook, house chores, hearing children argue and bicker, etc. BUT, these are unavoidable, aren’t they?

And while all these take place, our children grow in front of our very eyes.

So, in the end, I really should choose which ones I need to treasure more.

And to those, I should channel more energy and time!

I, btw, choose, my family … over work and house chores.


[Nalusuan Beach, Cebu]

 

Am thankful to God for the good 6 days away from home.

Being in the open space. Enjoying God’s amazing creation.

Away from city life.

Away from daily routines.

Because it all allowed me to review myself, reflect, introspect and refresh my mind and heart.

Putting things in better perspective too.

Ah.

Anyway.

Here’s to better attempts to being a better and more loving Mom!

*Wheeee*

Jia yooo!

 


[Balicasag Island, Bohol] 

Cebu & Bohol … Here I Come! *Woot*

8 November 2014 | Posted in: Places to Visit | Comments Off

 

For the first time in forever, I’ll be traveling overseas, with 11 other strangers.

Yep, I’m off to Cebu and Bohol in the Philippines!

5 days, 4 nights.

Alone!

No hubby.

No kids.

Just me.

Yikes!

Seriously, it feels … weird.

But, at the same time … exciting! Hah.

 

 

How will things be?

Will the kids be all alright?

Have I packed everything that the kids need?

Have I even packed everything I need?

Will my hubby remember when to pick the kids up?

Ah well.

I guess, I just need to prepare everything as best as I can, and just … go! =)

 

 

Before I end the post (and continue my packing!), I just want to express how GRATEFUL I am for my family and friends who help out with the kids during my trip!

Thank God for them!

Because, without their help, I wouldn’t be able to go.

For sure!

And, big thanks to my hubby too, for encouraging me to go for this!

Love you big time!! =)

 

 

Oh, one last thing!

I’ll be sharing updates and photos of the trip!

Follow my little adventure on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter yeah!

Instagram:
instagram.com/leonny_oureverydaythings

Facebook:

www.facebook.com/leonny.atmadja

Twitter:

@oureverydaythgs

And in the mean time, click on THIS LINK, and check out our destination!

*Excited!!*

Note: All photos are courtesy of Philippine Tourism Promotions Board. And, of course thanks to Silk Air and omy.sg for flying me there!

Thoughts : Full in the Heads, Empty in the Hearts?

5 November 2014 | Posted in: Inspirational, Parenting | 2 Comments

Here’s the reality.

Parents tend to worry about their children’s intellectual developments.

Why can’t my child read yet?
(And she’s 3yo, btw)

Oh, my friend’s son knows his ABC’s already. My daughter doesn’t even know what ‘A’ is like.

My friend’s daughter reads so well at the age of 5. My 6yo daughter can’t read properly.

I’ve personally seen young teenagers who score straight A’s at school, who speak oh-so-rudely to uncles and aunties at food courts. We parents compare.

We parents worry.

We parents … place great emphasis on our children’s intellectuality and academic abilities.

Not that it’s wrong of course.

Because it sure is our responsibility as parents to provide an environment where our children can learn and play.

So, what’s my point?

Well. Today’s food for thought that I’d like to share is this:

While we sure put a lot of emphasis on our children’s intellectuality and academic developments, how much emphasis do we place on ‘seemingly less popular’ aspects in our children’s lives, like : honesty, respect towards others, good manners, faith, integrity, etc?

I’ve personally seen young teenagers who score straight A’s at school, who speak oh-so-rudely to uncles and aunties at food courts.

Or, young children who do very well at school, but simply like to … not tell the truth.

To me personally, … ABC’s, maths and science can always be learned from school.

But, values like good mannerism, positive attitude towards failure, respect towards others, honesty, faith, etc…these need to be instilled and built since day 1.

By the FAMILY.

Otherwise, I am afraid we are all raising a generation that is full in the head, yet empty in the hearts.

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