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5 Lessons Our Kids Can Learn From Mountain Climbing

14 January 2018 – 9:17 pm | One Comment

 
Someone asked our 6.5yo Brie about her recent Mount Lawu hike:
‘So did you enjoy it?’
And … Brie shook her head.
‘Oops!’, the man smiled and looked at Wilson. ☺️

Well.
To us, it is okay if our kids …

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Not Everything Needs To Be Shared Online

18 January 2018 | Posted in: Daily | No Comment

 

 

In today’s ONLINE world, the line between what’s private and what’s public seems to be quite faint.

Many seem to share ‘everything’, and are simply unsure of where they should draw the line.

I’ve seen the following being shared online, by people I personally know:

  • Screenshots of private messages, about someone else, whom they dislike at school or at work
  • Screenshots of someone’s Instagram post (someone whom they dislike), sometimes adding to it degrading comments, too
  • Facebook updates stating serious issues with spouse
  • Facebook updates stating how they feel and what they do throughout the day
  • Screenshots of real personal home address

 


 

When it comes to ‘existing online’, I personally believe we need to:

>> stay true to ourselves (we must be the same person – online and offline)

>> think and choose what we are about to share because:
– not everything is useful, good, or kind
– not everything needs to be shared

When I say ‘not everything needs to be shared’, I mean to say:

– we don’t have to always share ‘where we exactly are located’ at any particular point in time (for safety reasons, too)

– we should not share personal info online (eg. Home address)

– we should not share internal family or marital problems

– we should not share personal messages that are originally meant ‘for our eyes only’

– we should not be a cyber bully and share hateful and destructive comments

– we should not share private details of our children’s personal lives.

When our children have grown older, we should consider respecting their privacyWhen our children have grown older, we should consider respecting their privacy. Personal details like the kinds of tantrums she throws, the kinds of friends she has, the kinds of rebellion he displays, should be kept within the family, and not shared online.

Today, the online world is a big part of our lives.

And it’s okay.

The online world is a big part of our livesAs long as we also remember to exercise extra caution, and think twice or three times even, about the things we are about share BEFORE we share them online?

Food for thought.

For us and for our children.

[All photos above are from the internet]

12 Thoughts I Picked Up from ‘The Greatest Showman’ Movie

17 January 2018 | Posted in: Daily, Giveaways, Awards & Reviews | No Comment


 

Watched ‘The Greatest Showman’, and LOVED it!

Loved the story, the values, the songs, the choreography, the dance, … okay, not so much on the ‘animal in a circus’ part though, IF it were in ‘real life circus’.

(And of course I love the acting talents. Hugh Jackman, especially =)

Here are 12 thoughts I picked up from the movie, in no order of importance:

 
1. Do not belittle, bully someone just because we feel they are different from us (ie. Claiming the ‘rights’ to bully someone who’s regarded as ‘unacceptable’ by the society). Different race, skin colour, physical shape, social and economic background, etc. It will only bring destruction to everyone.
 
2. When the society/peers belittle, mock, look down upon us and our situation that we aren’t able to change (eg. Physical flaws), finding a positive community with a common positive purpose will help in overcoming the negatives and moving forward in developing talents one perhaps never explored
 
Connect with people from all walks of life3. Dare to dream big, beyond our current situation
 
4. Work hard towards your goal, connect with people from all walks of life, including those who seem to be above/beyond ‘our league’
 
Don’t strive to be accepted by ‘everyone’5. Don’t strive to be accepted by ‘everyone’
 
6. Everyone has something to offer, a talent. Often, we need to put in time and effort to develop it, make it shine and positively impacting others around.
 

 
7. Fame, applause by the society, and money will never fill the ‘hole in our heart’. Nothing will ever be enough to fill it.
 
8. ‘Money and family time’ often (not always) cannot go hand in hand.

Fame, applause by the society, and money will never fill the ‘hole in our heart’Those whose focus is on earning / chasing ‘money’ (though done ‘for the sake of the family’s welfare’) will tend to spend less and less time with the family.
 
9. Materials (big house, toys, etc) cannot replace the presence of both parents in a child’s life
 
10. When our children share their thoughts with us, however silly we think they are, smile and don’t belittle them (eg. Through our gestures or verbal comments)
 
Spouse must communicate and give reminders to the other half11. Spending too much time with someone (opposite sex) who’s not our spouse can potentially lead us to temptations, which potentially can break our marriage.
 
12. Spouse must communicate and give reminders to the other half, if he/she starts to lose focus on what’s important in life. Learn to accept, forgive and move forward with spouse when he/she makes mistakes along the way.
 

 
Okay. I’ll stop at twelve (originally, I only wanted to write 7 points =)
 

 

Tips for parents:

– There are kissing scenes, but to me, they’re okay ones because it’s unlike the usual ‘Hollywood-style lustful scenes’. They’re appropriately placed along the storyline =)
 
Important for parents to explain the values to the children– So important for parents to explain the values to the children before/after the movie, or when watching it again at home. Have a good discussion with them, too, on bullying and accepting others who are different from us, eg.
 

 
Love the songs, the lyrics, the energy, the passion!
 

 

 
Enjoy the movie!

Does Social Media Bring Out Our Split Personality Disorder?

16 January 2018 | Posted in: Daily, Inspirational | No Comment

Watched ‘Split’ the movie where the main character ‘Kevin’ has … wait for it … 24 different personalities in him!

TWENTY FOUR.

He was abused by his mother and different personalities emerged over the years to cope with his surrounding, ever since he was a young boy.

His personalities include one where he is a clean freak, a young boy, a fashionista, some 21 others. Including, becoming a ‘beast’.

In today’s online world, many in fact suffer from split personalities, tooHusband and I discussed this movie and we truly believe such split personality disorders exist. Not sure if one can have up to 24 personalities, though. But I’m sure there’s always someone out there, with a weird disorder, waiting to be diagnosed.

But anyway, as we chatted away, we sort of realised, … hey, in today’s online world, many in fact suffer from split personalities, too!

Think about it.

Today’s social media ‘encourages’ people in general to have online persona that’s often DIFFERENT from their ‘real’ life.

People freely use random names on their ‘extra’ accounts, state dates of birth that are not theirs, and even post other people’s photos, pretending to be THAT person.

Use another account to leave hateful comments on other accountsFor example,
In real life, John is quiet and timid. But online, he’s bubbly, fun and lively. John also has ‘extra’ secret accounts (well, perhaps just one or two extras) where he’d post ‘uglier’ photos of himself OR some other person whom he dislikes, and use another account to leave hateful comments on other accounts, usually those whom he dislikes.

See how many ‘personalities’ John already has online?

To me, this is a scary fact.

But it is just SO real today.

Are we the same person online and offline?

Do we (unconsciously or consciously) do what John (fictional character) does?

Do we know what our children are like online?

Food for thought.

5 Lessons Our Kids Can Learn From Mountain Climbing

14 January 2018 | Posted in: Inspirational, Parenting | One Comment

 

Someone asked our 6.5yo Brie about her recent Mount Lawu hike:

‘So did you enjoy it?’

And … Brie shook her head.

‘Oops!’, the man smiled and looked at Wilson. ☺️

Well.

Naturally, we prefer conveniences, and AVOID hardshipsTo us, it is okay if our kids say they didn’t enjoy the hike.

We don’t make them say ‘I love camping!’

I mean, naturally, we prefer clean beds and proper toilets.
Instead of sleeping in some run-down hut and having to do our ‘business’ in the bush out in the open.

Naturally, we prefer relaxing spas and pampering massages.
Instead of walking uphill and stepping on rocks for 8-10 hours straight.

Naturally, we prefer Disneyland.
Instead of camping trips in the middle of nowhere.

Naturally, we prefer conveniences, and AVOID hardships.

 

 

Our kids simply come along with us, whether or not they ‘like’ itTo us, our kids simply come along with us, whether or not they ‘like’ it.

We don’t expect our children to love NOT being able to shower for 3 days, eat super simple food and drink from a well.

 

 

We however wish for our children these 5 things (among many others):

>>To learn how real life will not always be convenient, we will not always enjoy what we want, we will not always be ‘at the top of things’, BUT it is okay.

Real life will not always be convenient>> They discover for themselves how they apparently COULD survive the struggles and difficult courses! That they should never underestimate themselves and their ability to go BEYOND their comfort level.

>> If they ever have to go through inconveniences in life, we hope they’ve learned to ‘complain less’ and instead ‘struggle forward’, having had the experience of moving forward towards the peak of mountains, even when things get really tough and exhausting.
 

 
>> That there’s beauty after hardships and amidst struggles (seeing beautiful surrounding, esp. from higher grounds)

>> To see how others looked out for each other during the trip, including how others cared for their well-being, that they in turn learn to be self-less, too, and help others who are more in need.

 

 

So, is it okay with us if our kids say they didn’t enjoy the hiking trip?

Yes, it is totally fine.

Because we believe that REGARDLESS of how they feel about the trip, the memories of the experience will somewhat ‘equip’ them (most probably at unexpected times) for life’s many ups and downs.

(But anyway, Levi LOVED the trip and soooo looking forward to our next hike! =)

Parenting : Things to Remember when Tough Parenting Times Take Place

4 August 2014 | Posted in: Inspirational, Parenting | No Comment

 
All parents of more than one child would want their kids to get along. To care for one another.
I mean, no normal parent would enjoy dealing with sibling arguments, petty jealousies and rude behaviours between …

Anya’s Terrible Three : Making a comeback

23 August 2007 | Posted in: Daily, Parenting | No Comment

The big sister’s been keeping me busy lately.
With her daily (and rather frequent) Terrible Three moments.
It’s actually been quite alright these past few months. Of course there are times when she’d make such a huge …

About Anya, Her Love for Words and God’s Grace

1 April 2010 | Posted in: Daily, Inspirational, Parenting | 4 Comments

Now that Anya is in K2 (read: Kindergarten 2, the year before she goes to Primary One here in Singapore), I get to see more of her love for writing and words.
Which to me is …

Making : Painting on Canvas – Wedding Tree

3 January 2012 | Posted in: Marriage & Relationships | 4 Comments

Here’s a little something I did during our recent trip to Jakarta.
I painted on canvas =)
This was what happened.
I was checking out a book store when I saw HEAPS of canvasses on the shelves! And …

‘Looking after Ourselves’, especially AFTER We’re Married

When it comes to ‘looking after ourselves’, especially AFTER we’re married, there’s this one tip (shared by some ‘seniors’) that I often keep in mind.
They said:
Wives, later on … when you’re busy looking after the …

Marriage : Let’s Keep On Working on It!

4 December 2012 | Posted in: Inspirational, Marriage & Relationships | 2 Comments

So.
How long have we been married ?
It’s been 11 years for us.
To some people, that’s pretty long already.
To some others, we’re just at the ‘beginning’ of a long journey, and there’ll be many more ‘interesting’ …