Parenting »

Thoughts: Parents and Authority

28 October 2017 – 10:55 am | One Comment

‘Gee, I can’t talk to my kids! They simply don’t listen to me!’
‘They just don’t obey me!’
‘I can’t get through to my kids.’

Here’s one common issue parents face today , that is: the LACK of …

Read the full story »

From the ups and downs of parenthood, to practical tips on enjoying and managing life with children.


Where inspiring thoughts and treasured life lessons are learned and shared.

Places to Visit

From Hong Kong to Bali, from Universal Studios Singapore to farmstays and beaches in Perth, we share photos, info and tips with you!

Crafts & Activity Ideas for Kids

How many different things can we do with our little ones at home and outside? Too many.


Where precious daily moments are captured and seen through the lens. Sharing with you tips, iphone apps, and ideas too.

Home » Parenting

Thoughts: Dealing with Our Children’s Mistakes

14 September 20173 Comments

Name one parent, one educator, one teacher, who has NEVER made a mistake in life.

Everyone makes mistakes, including our children.

I remind myself daily, that my task is to guide their hearts whenever I need to rebuke or correct their mistakes.

I am NOT called to merely fix their behaviour
As their parent and educator, I am NOT called to merely fix their behaviour, nor vent my personal emotion, anger and impatience.

Not an easy task.

May God give me more wisdom, patience and love in dealing with our children and their ‘mistakes in life’.


  • May says:

    Interested to know more about what you meant by “guide their hearts”?

    • Leonny says:

      Hi May,

      Basically, it’s the understanding that our behaviours/actions actually flow out of what’s happening in the heart.

      What we see (behaviour):
      A child who always refuses to share his cookies/toys with his brother/sister.

      Child’s heart:
      I only want this for MYSELF, ie. selfishness. I don’t care if you cry, I don’t care if you’re sad, as long as I get this all for myself, I’m happy. I am putting my happiness on ‘having this for myself’.

      If we only want to fix/correct the behaviour (‘Share with your brother now, please), we are fixing the ‘outside’ only.

      Instead, we need to help the child see how he doesn’t want to share because he wants things only for himself and not care about others. This is selfishness and it is not right.

      (I’m a Christian, so I do say that being selfish, focusing only on self and not caring about hurting / making other people feel sad is a sin … and it makes God sad, too)

      Another example would be:
      A child who studies hard for her exams, and helps around the house.
      From the outside, it looks like she’s doing well, ie. good behaviour.
      As the parent who observes our own children however, we need to see further ‘inside’, more than the behaviour / the surface.
      eg. The daughter studies hard for her exams because she wants to give her best, be responsible in her studies because it’s a blessing to be able to go to school, because she wants to use her God-given talents … OR, because in her heart, her true motivation is to show her parents that she’s BETTER than her siblings, to gain praises from her teachers and to look good in front of her friends (ie. Pride). So beyond the surface, we need to look within the heart, and what truly motivates the behaviour, and address/correct/guide the heart.

      Hope I have somewhat explained it well, and not confuse you even more =D

      Btw, a wonderful book on this that I highly recommend is titled “Shepherding a Child’s Heart’ by Tedd Tripp. Worth reading!

  • Day Care says:

    Salam hangat buat bunda ….
    congratulations buat bunda semuanya yang selalu kuat, sabar dalam menanti sibuah hati, selalu diberi kesehatan ya bunda

    untuk bunda yang sesudah melewati proses persalinan dan yang lagi mencari tempat day care , terutama bunda yang punya kesibukan di luar rumah atau ingin anak kita cepat bersosialisasi dengan teman temannya kami membuka cabang day care bunda , Kami pusatnya di Mega kuningan dan saat ini kami telah membuka cabang di daerah Gandaria Kebayoran Baru Bunda
    Cabang Day Care My Tootsie Bear
    Alamat : JL Gandaria Tengah III NO.5 Kebayoran Baru Jakarta Selatan
    Telpon : 0877 8566 8075

    Dengan alamat dan nomor telepon yang kami sertakan , bunda boleh menghubungi kami untuk menanyakan perihal Day Care yang di pusat maupun yang di cabang bunda.
    Kami informasikan bunda , 10 orang pendaftar pertama kami memberikan disc 50% (member) , dan untuk harian kami disc 20%.
    untuk bunda semuanya jaga kesehatan ya bunda sehat selalu bunda
    Terimakasih Bunda

Leave a comment!

Add your comment below, or trackback from your own site. You can also subscribe to these comments via RSS.

Be nice. Keep it clean. Stay on topic. No spam.

You can use these tags:
<a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <s> <strike> <strong>

This is a Gravatar-enabled weblog. To get your own globally-recognized-avatar, please register at Gravatar.

CommentLuv badge