Exploring Our Children’s Potentials

These days, we see an increase in marital issues that lead to separation and divorces.

Sad, but true.

Why do marriages break down in the first place?

Is keeping a marriage healthy and alive THAT hard?

Yes.

At least, I believe so.

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Often, what happens is, the married man and woman have become moms and dads, and are no longer husbands and wivesWhen kids are little, all are busy with minding the kids.

Often, what happens is, the married man and woman have become moms and dads, and are no longer husbands and wives.

When they talk, the topic is most likely about the kids, their school, their misbehaviours that day, etc.

Life revolves around the kids. Everyday.

In other words, romance and enjoying each other’s company as a couple seem to be out the window to many. Because, well … by the end of each day, everyone is just so exhausted from focusing on everything else BUT their relationship with their spouse.

Now.

When the kids are all grown up, then … what happen to the husbands and wives IF they’ve never quite worked on their relationship and communication since the beginning?

Through out the many years of raising the children since they’re born, the ‘mom and dad’ forget to connect and build on their husband-wife relationship and communicationThe reality is, … many often find themselves feeling somewhat clueless and awkward with each other when left alone, ie. When the kids are no longer living in the same house.

Reason?

Most likely because, through out the many years of raising the children since they’re born, the ‘mom and dad’ forget to connect and build on their husband-wife relationship and communication.

While they’re busy with their daily chores, work and bonding with the kids, they’ve most probably forgotten to bond as a couple and enjoy each other’s company as ‘husband and wife’.

Self-sacrifice.

Putting others’ need before own.

Choosing to be quiet first at moments of anger.

Asking for forgiveness.

Respecting and loving our spouse.

Encouraging and showing appreciation.

Communicating and making an effort to always connect with our spouse.

These too are often forgotten.

Perhaps it’s also because they’re hard to do by self-centred people like us?

Electronic media and technology nowadays enter the homes and everyone’s daily lives, so much so that attention, time and energy are spent more on flat screens than on real peopleAdded to the above is the fact that electronic media and technology nowadays enter the homes and everyone’s daily lives, so much so that attention, time and energy are spent more on flat screens than on real people.

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Anyway.

Food for thought.

Let’s reflect on ourselves, our relationships, and work HARD on our marriage.

Because, really, keeping a marriage that’s healthy and alive ’till death do us part’ IS hard.

May God help us and have mercy on us all.