Parenting : Proper Environment, Proper Upbringing
One of it is, our environment.
Some parents don’t regard it as important. But there are parents who are particular about the kind of friends their children have, the kind of estate they live in and the kind of school they go to.
Basically, the kind of ENVIRONMENT that their children live in everyday.
Here are a few things that I personally learned today that I’d like to share with you [we all went to our church's retreat and were greatly blessed by Rev. DR. Stephen Tong's sermons]
Our children should (must) not be good friends with ‘bad friends’ (read : people who won’t be of good nor positive influence). Because peers will influence the child and his character.
And as parents we should ACTIVELY seek or create a constructive environment for our children.
It was widely known that Mencius, a famous Chinese philosopher, has a mother who’s well aware of the great effect one’s environment has on one’s characters.
In the traditional Chinese idiom, there’s this saying, ‘mèng mǔ sān qiān’, which literally means, ‘Mencius’ Mother, Three Moves’
And it actually refers to the legend that Mencius’ mother moved their house three times, from beside a cemetery to beside a marketplace, to FINALLY beside a school.
She decided that having a home beside a school would be the most suitable location for Mencius’ upbringing. And Mencius later did learn from the scholars, their love for knowledge and he imitated them greatly.
This traditional Chinese idiom basically refers to the importance of a proper environment for the proper upbringing of children.
Mencius’ mother understood of this concept, and she dared to actively search for a suitable environment that would greatly shape her son’s characters.
Does your child live with a habit of ‘ordering or telling people what to do’? (which unconsciously can be created when one has a helper at home)
Does your child go to a school where many of her peers are super smart and that the fact that she’s not ‘as smart as them’ (after giving her personal best) makes her feel inferior about herself and her capability?
Are our child’s school friends mostly wealthy and she gets ridiculed by friends for not having a Mercedes Benz or a BMW?
Our children need to be grown-ups who strive to help, serve and continually be a blessing to others.
And as parents we can contribute to the shaping of their characters.
By actively doing something and making a positive change, today.
Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
1 Corinthians 15:33