Exploring Our Children’s Potentials

People ask me, ‘Do your two kids ALWAYS get along with each other?’

And I’d be like, ‘Noooo … of course they don’t ALWAYS hug and cuddle each other lovingly.’

They’re after all individuals who have unique characters, and not to mention selfish needs and wants.

Anya would want what Vai has (and complain about WHY he has it and she doesn’t).

Vai would be impatient with Anya and give her a ‘push’ so she’d walk ‘faster’.

Anya would refuse to share her favourite food and Vai would in the end try to grab and snatch it anyway.

Really. The list can go on and on.

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But then again, kids – in any family – are like that, aren’t they?

I mean, it is almost impossible to have siblings who NEVER bicker nor make each other cry.

If you ask me though, I think the focus shouldn’t really be about HOW MUCH they don’t get along with each other (or how drained we parents sometimes feel when dealing with our kids and their little ‘conflicts’)

I think the focus should be more on HOW we as parents need to be actively involved in encouraging good and healthy relationships amongst siblings in the family, from day one.

Because loving relationships amongst siblings ARE possible to have.