Marriage: Communicate and Relate
Sin makes husbands and wives say to each other:
‘It’s your fault!’
‘It’s because of YOU!’
‘You did it!’
Husband and wife blame each other.
They each focus on ‘self’ (I need to be heard, I need to be appreciated, etc.)
In all conflicts, we always want to win.
We want to prove that we are RIGHT.
The reality is, whoever wins (be it the wife or the husband), it is the WHOLE FAMILY who will get hurt and suffer, including the children.
And, Satan wins.
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Husband-wife relationships must be built and continually nurtured, because it is the ‘centre’ of the family.
When mom and dad communicate well, when they fear the Lord, when they grow spiritually, their children will feel secure.
Their sense of security does not come from the family’s financial status.
Husbands and wives who do not sincerely walk with the Lord will become stumbling blocks for other people, and for their own childrenChildren in the family carefully observe and watch their parents, how they live our their faith and how they relate to each other.
They will see if God works in the heart of their Dad and Mom.
Husbands and wives who do not sincerely walk with the Lord will become stumbling blocks for other people, and for their own children.
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This is something that many christians should think about and be seriously aware of, … because unfortunately this is something that many easily forget and overlook.
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To all husbands, wives, dads and moms,
may God help us all and give us His grace and mercy.
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(Inspired by ‘Learn to Communicate in the Family’ online seminar, by Vic. Sariwati Darmawan)
