Going Through Tough Times with the Kids?
Let’s first ask ourselves these questions.
What kind of memories do we want for our children?
Are we present in their lives?
How do we respond to them – when they are well-behaved, and when they are difficult.
Do we look for mistakes?
Do we go on, and on, and on? Do we show appreciation towards their little gestures of kindness?
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Most of us find it the hardest to deal with difficult behaviours, ie. Behaviours that we do not ‘expect’.
So how do WE usually deal with their forgetfulness, laziness, lack of discipline and empathy, delays and tantrums?
Ultimately kindness makes our children feel lovedAs much as we need to find a healthy balance between being firm, consistent, authoritative, patient, loving and forgiving, ultimately kindness makes our children feel loved.
Yes. Kindness in our tone of voice, words and acts.
It has nothing to do with our salary, our social status, our education, our work.
Really.
To our children, we are just their Mom, their Dad.
And all children long to be listened, understood, loved, appreciated and treated fairly. Despite their difficult behaviours.
Let’s pray for them, reflect and do better?
Food for thought.
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I have so much to repent, change and improve in my ways of dealing with my childrenAm writing this thought as a self-reminder.
Not because I’m a great mom, but because I have so much to repent, change and improve in my ways of dealing with my children.
May God have mercy on us, and help us to be the kind of parents HE wants us to be.
Every day.
