Between the two
Being a Mom of two, I personally find it a daily challenge to be able to juggle and spend time ‘equally’ and wisely with the two kids.
Vai being the younger one who still needs a lot of ‘physical care’ from me (feeding, diaper changing, etc) naturally needs ‘more’ of my time.
At the same time, Anya being the older one needs a different kind of attention from me.
She wants her actions to be noticed. She wants me to always know and listen whenever she says or comments on something. Which sometimes is a bit hard to do when I’m in the middle of soothing the crying brother, or in a conversation with a friend.
I notice too that when Wilson has to stay back at work to meet project deadlines for a few days in a row, she’s more cranky and demanding than usual.
It all comes down to attention, I guess. I’m sure Anya knows we both love her very much. We often tell her how much we love her too.
But knowing alone is of course not enough. Knowing needs to be accompanied with actual attention showered by the parents and time spent with the kids.
And so. For my case, it’ll always be a daily challenge. To shower both kids with the attention and love each of them need. And to let them see and experience the love that they often hear about.
