I must admit.
One of the questions I asked myself after Wilson and I discussed about trying for baby no. 3 was: Can I actually divide my time, attention, energy and love to THREE kids?
You see, I thought about that question too when we planned to have baby no. 2.
I wondered if I could still care, love and pay enough attention to Anya, my first born, as much as I would love to, when number two came along.
Well, today that number two is four years old. And when I look at how things are during the past four years, I can say that we have loved them both the SAME.
Yes, no.1 does not get ALL of our time and attention like how it used to when we only had one child in the family. BUT, having no. 2 around does NOT mean we love no. 1 any less. At all.
In fact, when having more than 1 child in the family is possible, it allows the first child to enjoy what siblinghood is all about. And the ‘positives’ outweigh the ‘negatives’, if you ask me.
Okay. That’s about having two kids in the family.
But how about having three?
Caring and loving three kids IS a completely different thing.
Errr, isn’t it?
I mean, when you have two, I can hold one with one hand, and hold the other with my other hand.
When we go out, one can be with Daddy, and one can be with Mommy.
But how will it be when I have three?
Can we love, care and pay attention to the THREE kids as much as we’d love to? Because I surely don’t want to miss anyone out.
If you ask me, somehow I believe that we’ll work things out next year.
Don’t ask me HOW, because I’m eager to find out how it’ll be too next year!
(I guess, it’d be similar to how Wilson and I worked together, supported one another, and managed things out when we started having our second child in the family?)
Despite all those questions, there’re some things I can say for sure :
There will always be things about the future that we don’t know today. But if God has entrusted us with another child in the family, we both really believe that HE will also …
… give us the necessary strength to go through the ups and downs we’ll face each day
… provide for us what we need every day
… shower us with His faithfulness, patience and love so that we too can share what we have received from above with our little ones
Btw, did similar thoughts cross your mind too when you plan to have more than one child in the family?