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Parenting : ‘My Child is Too Small To Do THAT’!

25 July 2014 – 8:30 pm |

 
“I don’t think my child can do it just yet”
“How can my 2-year-old do THAT?”
“Ah, he’s still so small. It’s okay, let me do it for him!”

Somehow I hear such sentences quite often when it …

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Return of the Haze in Singapore

19 October 2010 | Posted in: Daily, Food & Health | 5 Comments


It’s all hazy again here in Singapore.

[And the last time it happened badly here in Singapore was in 2006, not too long after Vai was born! It was so bad that we could only see a few hundred metres ahead of us, and the rest was just a blur]

The return of this haze problem dawned on me when I saw how bad the weather was when the kids had their swimming lesson today.

It was smoky all over.

And when I got home, I found out how it’s caused by fires in parts of Sumatra (again), and how the winds blow more smoke towards Singapore.

Sigh.

It does make me feel reluctant to go out and about.

Plus, with this morning sickness phase still lingering around, the haze somehow gives me a little ‘breathing discomfort’ too.

[I know some people's asthma returns, and kids fall sick too as the result. Poor thing.]

Really hope the air is clear again very, VERY soon.

Btw, how are you affected by the haze?

Parenting: Loving Two. Loving Three.

19 October 2010 | Posted in: Inspirational, Parenting | 7 Comments

I must admit.

One of the questions I asked myself after Wilson and I discussed about trying for baby no. 3 was: Can I actually divide my time, attention, energy and love to THREE kids?

You see, I thought about that question too when we planned to have baby no. 2.

I wondered if I could still care, love and pay enough attention to Anya, my first born, as much as I would love to, when number two came along.

Well, today that number two is four years old. And when I look at how things are during the past four years, I can say that we have loved them both the SAME.

Yes, no.1 does not get ALL of our time and attention like how it used to when we only had one child in the family. BUT, having no. 2 around does NOT mean we love no. 1 any less. At all.

In fact, when having more than 1 child in the family is possible, it allows the first child to enjoy what siblinghood is all about. And the ‘positives’ outweigh the ‘negatives’, if you ask me.

Okay. That’s about having two kids in the family.

But how about having three?

Caring and loving three kids IS a completely different thing.

Errr, isn’t it?

I mean, when you have two, I can hold one with one hand, and hold the other with my other hand.

When we go out, one can be with Daddy, and one can be with Mommy.

But how will it be when I have three?

Can we love, care and pay attention to the THREE kids as much as we’d love to? Because I surely don’t want to miss anyone out.


If you ask me, somehow I believe that we’ll work things out next year.

Don’t ask me HOW, because I’m eager to find out how it’ll be too next year!

(I guess, it’d be similar to how Wilson and I worked together, supported one another, and managed things out when we started having our second child in the family?)

Anyway.

Despite all those questions, there’re some things I can say for sure :

There will always be things about the future that we don’t know today. But if God has entrusted us with another child in the family, we both really believe that HE will also …

… give us the necessary strength to go through the ups and downs we’ll face each day

… provide for us what we need every day

… shower us with His faithfulness, patience and love so that we too can share what we have received from above with our little ones

Btw, did similar thoughts cross your mind too when you plan to have more than one child in the family?

How Kids Keep Themselves Occupied …

16 October 2010 | Posted in: Daily | No Comment

… while waiting for Mommy or Daddy at hair saloons:

They both would take turns and do their own imaginative role plays.

One would be the customer, and the other would be the hairdresser.

They would imagine combing, shaving, and cutting the other person’s hair.

Interesting and amusing.

And, it does keep all parties happy and busy, hehe.

[Photo: Taken with iphone by hubby]

Stopping By: Civilian War Memorial @ City Hall

15 October 2010 | Posted in: Places to Visit | No Comment

If you live in Singapore, you definitely must have noticed this chopstick-like monument called the ‘Civilian War Memorial‘, standing tall right in the middle of busy city traffic near Suntec City and City Hall.

The question is, have we ever walked past the monument, stopped and checked it out, even for a little while?

Well some time ago, we did just that.

For our very first time, in more than a decade of seeing the monument!

The four of us walked from City Hall MRT towards Suntec City and decided to stop by and actually see what the monument is all about.

Obviously it’s not something that the kids would be interested in.

BUT, they DID ask what ‘it’ was.

And that’s when we felt it was timely to explain a little bit about war.

[You see, our kids have heard about 'war', soldiers, etc, but we don't expose them to 'war stories' (read: where people kill or shoot at each other). We don't encourage physical aggression in our family. And, we discourage play using swords or toy guns, and we do explain to them why.]



And so, here’s our simple explanation to them of what the monument and war are about:

Imagine if there’s a stranger standing outside our home and he wants to come inside. Once inside, the stranger says, ‘This is now MY home! This is NO LONGER your home!!’ Then he used our bathroom, he slept on our beds, and he told us to work and clean the house for him.

[I then asked the kids, 'Whose home is it?', and they both said, 'It's of course OUR home!']

If THAT happened, then we – the real OWNER of the house – would definitely ask the stranger/outsider to LEAVE. And when the stranger insists to stay and claims that it’s HIS home, everyone at home will surely get together to make sure that the stranger leaves for good!

The same goes for a country like Singapore. Last time, some people from another country (ie. Japan, in this case) came to Singapore and said, ‘Singapore is now MY country!’. Then of course the people of Singapore said, ‘NO! It’s MY country! Leave Singapore and go back to YOUR own country!’

But they didn’t want to leave. The people of Singapore fought against them to make sure that Singapore was still THEIR home. During the fight (which we know as ‘war’), many Singaporeans died. And that’s why we have this monument. It’s to remember that many Singaporeans died, when outsiders came and said that Singapore was THEIR home.

We were around the monument for less than 10 minutes, I think. But during that short span of time, I know the kids learned a little something important.

About the need to protect their own home and family. And about the need to respect others.

Parenting: Kids and the Computer

28 April 2010 | Posted in: Daily, Inspirational, Parenting | 5 Comments

I’ve been asked quite a bit about whether I allow my two young kids play computer games, and my answer to that is, ‘Yes.’
Personally, I’m not against computer games (or the TV, or mobile phone …

Happy Father’s Day 2014!

15 June 2014 | Posted in: Daily, Marriage & Relationships, Parenting | No Comment
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To someone who had no idea how he’d act and what he’d do and say if he was to be a Daddy one day :
When we got married, I had no idea how we’d be …

Anya: ‘I want to be a Mommy’

5 April 2010 | Posted in: Daily, Parenting | 2 Comments
Anya: ‘I want to be a Mommy’

The other night, I was with Anya and Vai when the bedroom light was off and it was time for both kids to go and sleep.
And Anya, well … she’s never been interested in going …

Thoughts : Relationships

25 October 2007 | Posted in: Marriage & Relationships, Parenting | No Comment
Thoughts : Relationships

I was SO inspired by today’s sharing at our Women’s Fellowship.
Here’re some thoughts I’d like to share with you.
>> Family is an institution, a unit, that God Himself has established. And at the very core, …

Marriage: Making Time for the One You Love

7 July 2010 | Posted in: Marriage & Relationships | 3 Comments

Busyness.
It seems to be the ‘situation’ everyone faces today. Even amongst married couples.
But. It IS the reality, isn’t it?
We’re all busy with something, every day. And during most of our ‘waking hours’.
With kids. With work. …

Thoughts : Mothers and Wives – Privileged or Victimised

11 October 2007 | Posted in: Inspirational, Marriage & Relationships, Parenting | 2 Comments
Thoughts : Mothers and Wives – Privileged or Victimised

Some food for thought I’d like to share. From today’s Women’s Fellowship.
When we know the ‘price we need to pay’ for doing something and yet we still are willing to do it, it’s called ‘sacrifice’.
On …