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Appreciating and Encouraging Our Spouse

9 January 20132 Comments

One of the things that I often need to remind myself is, I’m not just a Mom.

I’m also someone’s wife.

The ‘problem’ is, when you have kids, we are naturally inclined to focus our energy and effort on being good parents, than be good wives / husbands.

Yes? No? =)

Anyway.

Today I’d like to share this thought with you (inspired by an article on reviveourhearts.com)

It’s about encouraging our spouse (and the wonderful ‘effects’ this ‘exercise’ will have on our relationship with our husband/wife, if implemented whole-heartedly and consistently for weeks)

When we spend time criticising our spouse, it basically means we lose time that could be spent appreciating them

Let me start by asking: 

We all crave appreciation, don’t we?

We want to know that we are valued and loved, especially by our spouse.

The question is though, do we show our appreciation towards our spouse too?

Or do we tend to criticise and discourage our spouse with our words and actions? (consciously or unconsciously)

When we spend time criticising our spouse, it basically means we lose time that could be spent appreciating them.

So this week, why don’t we try to do this : 

> Do NOT say anything negative about our spouse. Not to the spouse, and not to anyone else.

> Every single day, take some time to let our spouse know something about him / her that we appreciate and admire.

eg. Her kindness and concern for others, his help with the children, her consistent faith in God, his compassionate heart, her effort in making sure the children are well taken care of, his gentleness, anything.

… if implemented consistently and with a loving heart, this ‘task’ will do wonders to our relationship with our spouse!

It may sound easy to do to some, and tough to some others.

Whatever it is, I’ve been told that if implemented consistently and with a loving heart, this ‘task’ will do wonders to our relationship with our spouse!

ie. When we initiate and consistently show our appreciation towards our spouse, say … for a month.

In the name of nurturing our marriage and relationship, let’s get ready to take up this challenge!

Encouraging. Appreciating. Everyday.

 

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