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Simplicity Parenting: Why Less Is More for Your Kids

4 November 20113 Comments

I came across this article the other day and I felt I really should share it here with you.

It has LOTS of good points on how today’s parents NEED to re-examine their parenting style.

Because ultimately, it’s the children who are being greatly affected by our parenting style, ie. What we let them watch and play, what we buy for them, how we discipline their misbehaviours, what information is given to them, how hectic or simple our children’s day to day routine is, etc.

Click HERE to read the article.

And here are some excerpts of the article that I’d like to highlight.

– “Many of today’s behavioral issues come from children having too much stuff and living a life that is too fast”

– “The children in the developing world often have had negative sensory overwhelm, and we give our children sensory overwhelm here — too many trinkets, too many choices, too much information — and this causes a cumulative stress issue in kids”

– Parents [are asked to] see childhood as an unfolding experience, not an enrichment opportunity. “If it is an enrichment opportunity, then we’re in an arms race, trying to get the most for our child. This is fundamentally a con, and not healthy.”

– As you decrease the quantity of your child’s toys and clutter, you increase their attention and their capacity for deep play. Too much stuff leads to too little time and too little depth in the way kids see and explore their worlds.”

We live in an era where everyone is loaded with information. Too much of it.

The problem is, while we adults have the maturity (well, most of us anyway) to discern, discard or ignore whatever information that we feel we should ignore, little ones have yet to have that level of maturity.

They accept whatever we parents give them.

They go with whatever routine that we’ve created for them.

They even demand for things that potentially are not good for them.

Anyway.

Do take a look at the article. And let’s re-examine ourselves, our style of parenting, and our family.

For our children’s sake.

Have a great weekend, everyone!

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  • Leonny says:

    Hello xin,

    Aku sendiri sering denger hal2 yang bikin hati sedih. Sepertinya, koq tidak di apresiasi, tidak di mengerti, apa selama ini salah ngajar, krg mengasihi dll.

    Nah, satu yang hal yg pasti, anak memang anak, dan mereka blm ada kedewasaan utk berpikir panjang. Bahkan jg ada yg bilang ke saya (dan ini saya ingettt terus utk mendorong saya kalau berasa down), kalau anak kita mungkin baru bisa menghargai kita dlm arti yang sebenar2nya 20-30th dari sekarang. Bahkan mungkin setelah kita tidak ada lagi di dunia (jadi maksudnya, kalau ortu di salah mengerti anak terus, dan tidak di hargai terus2an, itu wajar). Pengorbanan orangtua itu jauh melampaui apa yang anak mengerti, tapi kita terus lakukan dan berikan yang didikan yang terbaik, krn kita ortu yg mengasihi anak.

    Nah, balik ke kalimat yg anak Xin bilang, kalau bisa coba tanya pertanyaan2 specific supaya bisa lebih mengerti maksud dia bilang gitu. Krn anak cenderung mmg belum bisa ungkapin dengan jelas perasaan/ pikiran dia. Misalnya, dgn mama keseleo, mama jadi lebih bisa istirahat di rumah dan temenin dia di rumah, dan dia senang kalau bisa sama2 mama. Bisa banyak kemungkinan sih ya.

    Pertanyaan yang kalimat2nya lebih spesifik akan bantu anak dlm ceritain perasaan dia … dibanding pertanyaan umum.

    eg. Waktu anak bilang mendingan mama keseleo ajah,

    instead of tanya: koq bilang gitu?

    Bisa coba tanya dengan baik2:
    – kalau mama keseleo, mama susah jalan, terus ga bisa jalan2 sama kamu, bagaimana?
    – kalau mama sakit, bisa nanti bantu jagain mama?
    – kalau mama papa sakit, nanti kamu bagaimana? siapa yang bisa main sama kamu dan bacain kamu cerita?

    Nah, semakin di jawab dengan lebih spesifik, nanti bisa lebih cari tau ttg kenapa dia mau mama keseleo spt papa

    hope it helps ya … dan smg dapet jawabannya yah …

  • xin says:

    Ci Leony, saya ingin minta pendapat cici. Hari ini saya sedih sekali karena anak saya (cewek / 5 yo) bilang begini : Mama, aku mau mama sakit kayak papa (suami kakinya lagi keseleo dan susah jalan) dan saya tanya kok bilang begitu? lalu anak saya bilang : iya aku suka mama sakit kayak papa.

    Saya bingung kenapa dia bisa ngomong begitu, saya berpikir apa selama ini saya kurang perhatian sama dia? (saya bekerja dari jam 9 – 6) tetapi tiap malam saya selalu bercerita sebelum tidur. dan ngobrol sebentar. Memang kadang2 saya galak, maksud saya biar dia disiplin.

    Menurut cici, saya bagaimana baiknya?

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