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Parenting Tips and Thoughts : The Impact of Home Environment

2 December 20096 Comments

I’ll be sending my child, my littlest, to his very first classroom in a month or so.

(And I still find it hard to believe that he’ll soon be ‘old enough’ to attend nursery school! How time flies!)

I realise how our kids eventually will step out of our home and learn from other people at some formal educational institutions.

But, while parents get busy preparing for their kids and their schooling years, many may have (unconsciously) forgotten that the most important teaching actually takes place within the walls of their home.

And with that in mind, I’d like to share with you this insightful article today.

It’s about our children, their home environment and the impacts of what we (and our little ones) do at home.

Happy reading, everyone!

Source: Focus on the Family
by Cheri Fuller

We want to have great schools to send our kids to, but the truth is their home environment has a profound impact on their learning. The old saying, “The most important work you do takes place within the walls of your home,” applies here. Let me demonstrate this truth with an example of how to raise writers (that is, students who have strong writing skills).

When I taught high school English, I could always determine which students did some writing at home with their parents in the course of their everyday life. They did better in classroom writing and generally had a more positive attitude about writing, assuming that it was what grown-ups did in real life, not just cruel and unusual assignments reserved only for school.

Then some interesting research came out a few years ago, studying factors in families that support kids’ developing writing skills, that confirmed what I’d observed in the classroom1.

Here are some of the findings:

These children had a lot of conversation and reading at home. There was at least one adult who interacted with them about their writing; took time to let them read their stories, poems, or whatever they’d written aloud; and encouraged them to express themselves on paper. They suggested real reasons to do practical writing like making lists (of friends to invite to a party or foods they’d like to eat in the coming week) and wrote notes to their kids at home on sticky notes, on a whiteboard in a central place for family messages, and in their lunch boxes.

These were not parents who were professional writers, but ones who saw writing as a lifelong skill and encouraged it at home.

Take this same principle and apply it to other things your children need to learn, such as math (the attitude about math that kids come into the classroom with, and experiences at home with measuring, learning to set up a simple budget, counting toys while putting them away on shelves) and reading (avid young readers tend to come from homes where there’s a lot of reading aloud, parents are engaged in their own reading, and interesting books and magazines are available).

Not just moms, but dads also have an important role in developing their kids to be lifelong learners. Mothers are often the ones expected to help with homework and volunteer at school, but over and over studies show that a father’s encouragement and support — whether it’s reading aloud to his children, sharing a hobby, or showing genuine interest in the content that his kids are learning, not just the grades — can have a powerful impact on raising lifelong learners.

And if you decrease your own and your children’s time in front of the television during the school week and spend the time in other, more productive ways like playing board games or talking around the dinner table, you’ll be surprised at how this translates into more motivation for learning in the classroom.

Excessive TV watching (including DVDs and videotapes) robs kids of important parent-child time and is strongly related to inattention and childhood obesity. And please don’t put a television or computer in your young child’s room, isolating him or her from family interaction and parental supervision.

Make the most of your role model, because the top way kids learn is by imitation. The daily example you set in being interested in learning about the world around you, being persevering, patient, and optimistic about your challenges at work or home (including parenting!), will help your sons and daughters develop the determination to keep going on difficult math problems or other tasks despite frustrations.

Adapted from Handbook on Choosing Your Child’s Education, a Focus on the Family book published by Tyndale House Publishers. Copyright © 2007, Focus on the Family.

6 Comments »

  • Leonny says:

    Sandra:

    I myself am not ‘against’ television or the computers. I guess in the end, it’s about ‘what do you watch on TV or play on the computer’, ‘who do you watch it with’, and ‘how long do you spend time watching TV / DVDs or playing the computers’.

    Kids do get to learn from good TV programmes (eg. Anya picks a lot of new things about the African safari from shows like ‘Bushwise’) … and I introduce the kids to the world of animals not only via reading books, but also when Animal Planet has appropriate shows too.

    Can’t deny though that TVs and computers can easily be ‘magnets’ that draw kids to ‘want more’. And to me, this is when parents need to step in and guide.

    (and that’s why I put in bold this statement from the article: Excessive TV watching (including DVDs and videotapes) robs kids of important parent-child time )

    Anyway … thanks heaps for sharing ya … It’s always nice to read about other families’ stories!

  • Leonny says:

    Justina:

    Thanks for sharing too …

    (Amazing isn’t it, how kids can get so easily ‘glued’ to the TV? )

  • Leonny says:

    Juita:

    Most welcome …. Came across the article recently and just felt compelled to share it …

  • Sandra says:

    While i completely agree that reading is so so very important in the home life, & i fiercely encourage all parents to devote lots of time to reading to & with their children – i can not say that watching TV is completely bad. Take myself as example – my parents both worked, so they weren’t home much & they were not wholly interested in books – they read the newspaper alot – but i am a bookworm – a bookworm who is also very into TV & movies. i learnt alot watching TV with my parents – that was their parent-child time with me – we would watch it together & talk about what we have seen – we watched everything together – from the latest Hollywood movies to cartoons to TV serials to documentaries. i learnt tons from watching TV – i remember going to rent lots of Chinese period serials with my dad – he taught me lots of moral principles from those & the documentaries we watched together sparked my interest in the environment & wildlife. Reading was something that simply came as an extension of those interests sparked by TV – i wanted to know more & read to find out more & this expand to reading tons of novels – my parents could hardly keep up with my reading when i was a child – the 2nd bookshop lady became a family-friend that way 😉
    But then maybe i’m the exception – the weird one 😉
    Now i may it a rule that we watch stuff with my son & spend time with him on the computer – this allows me to control what he watches as well as teach him as we watch.
    i think it is important that whatever form of parent-child time we create – it must be educational & fun at the same time – i think TV/Computer is not all bad – just need to see it as a tool & use it to our advantage in educating our children.
    Just thot i throw this up for discussion 😀

  • Justina says:

    I totally agree! In fact, I’ve read that its best to not let the kids watch TV when they are below 2 years of age, and maximize parent child interactions… 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

  • Juita says:

    Huge thanks for this one, Le.

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