Time for some Twosome Time
Anya is now in Kindergarten (K1), and Vai will start going to nursery school (N2) in January next year.
[Fyi, here in Singapore at four years of age, children can attend N2; at five years old, it'd be K1; at six years old, it'd be K2; and after that they'd be going to Primary School]
And when Anya’s at school, I have a total of 4 hours (inclusive of her school bus trip) to spend with Vai. Just the two of us.
The thing is, and I don’t know if any other stay at home moms out there feel the same way, while I personally enjoy having Vai to myself, I often find it tough juggling so many other responsibilities at the same time.
At the back of my mind, I know I need (and want) to just play, chat and spend those four hours totally with him. Especially since he’s starting nursery next year (read : no more of those hours spent alone with Vai).
But at the same time I have errands, work, deadlines, house chores, meal preparations, and so many other things to complete, and I try to do as many as things as possible during those four hours before Anya comes back home from school (to lessen the workload that needs to be done when they’re napping or are in bed at night).
And I often find myself being AT HOME, but not really spending ‘quality time’ with my little Vai. Well, at least not in the way I want it to be.
[When I catch up with work, usually for an hour or so after Anya leaves for school, Vai would play by himself - often by my side - or watch a DVD, eg. The Wiggles, for about 30 mins or so]
And I can’t help but feel guilty sometimes.
Especially when I need to extend my ‘working hours’ to more than an hour.
So the other day I decided, enough of work and the internet. I’m going out with my little boy.
I told myself, just get out of the house and have an ‘uninterrupted’ twosome time with him (while at the same time, use up my shopping vouchers, hehe)
And so, off we went to Orchard.
We took the bus, we played guessing games, we walked hand in hand, we had lunch together.
And he happily napped on the bus on our way back.
Ah it was a good day out.
And I think our little guy enjoyed mommy’s full attention too.