Comments on: Marriage : staying together, staying happy (Part II) http://www.oureverydaythings.com/2008/09/marriage-staying-together-staying-happy-part-ii/ Loving Life with Children, Everyday Wed, 07 Jan 2009 17:10:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Leonny http://www.oureverydaythings.com/2008/09/marriage-staying-together-staying-happy-part-ii/#comment-546 Leonny Tue, 09 Sep 2008 19:07:19 +0000 http://www.oureverydaythings.com/?p=2239#comment-546 Siska: Thanks for sharing juga Sis! Yes it's a tough one ya ... the presence of our parents (or whoever's in our house for a long period of time) can manage to put a strain to the relationship we already have within our own family. I guess, it's sort of normal for any family to face 'problems' whenever we put our 'priority or preferences' to people other than our own spouse ya ... I think I'd probably experience the same thing if I were in your shoes. ............................................................................................ Sally: Thanks for sharing too! Perhaps the thing about in-laws and their presence at our home is, they tend to 'intervene' with what our family does? Not always with a bad intention though, coz there are in-laws who genuinely are nice. I guess it's just hard for them to NOT 'comment' when they see something and they disagree. (That's why for me, the best solution is to 'not' see at all ... ) Anyway, your case is a really tough one though! It's amazing how you've survived it all till today. Siska:

Thanks for sharing juga Sis!

Yes it’s a tough one ya … the presence of our parents (or whoever’s in our house for a long period of time) can manage to put a strain to the relationship we already have within our own family.

I guess, it’s sort of normal for any family to face ‘problems’ whenever we put our ‘priority or preferences’ to people other than our own spouse ya … I think I’d probably experience the same thing if I were in your shoes.

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Sally:

Thanks for sharing too!

Perhaps the thing about in-laws and their presence at our home is, they tend to ‘intervene’ with what our family does? Not always with a bad intention though, coz there are in-laws who genuinely are nice.

I guess it’s just hard for them to NOT ‘comment’ when they see something and they disagree. (That’s why for me, the best solution is to ‘not’ see at all … )

Anyway, your case is a really tough one though! It’s amazing how you’ve survived it all till today.

]]> By: Sally http://www.oureverydaythings.com/2008/09/marriage-staying-together-staying-happy-part-ii/#comment-530 Sally Sat, 06 Sep 2008 03:41:00 +0000 http://www.oureverydaythings.com/?p=2239#comment-530 Memang betul sebaiknya kalo udah married usahain punya tempat sendiri jgn sama in laws karna itu will create a lot of conflicts karna laki gw tuh the precious one. Itu yg gw alami skrg, karna gue masih tinggal ma tantenya laki gw yg ngak married and worse still, ngak kerja. Sering sekali dia ikut campur. i.e kalo kita lagi ribut. trus masalah anak selalu monitor gimana gue kasih makan anak gw and dia ngak suka cara gw discipline anak gw. Nah buntut2xnya, ngomongin gw dibelakang deh ma kakak2xnya. Tapi gue orgnya outspoken jadi mrk ngak gitu berani banyak ngomong di depan gw. Jadi kalo tinggal ma in law, lebih baik keep the conversation to a minimum apalagi kalo udah tau mrk tuh the gossip type. Memang betul sebaiknya kalo udah married usahain punya tempat sendiri jgn sama in laws karna itu will create a lot of conflicts karna laki gw tuh the precious one. Itu yg gw alami skrg, karna gue masih tinggal ma tantenya laki gw yg ngak married and worse still, ngak kerja. Sering sekali dia ikut campur. i.e kalo kita lagi ribut. trus masalah anak selalu monitor gimana gue kasih makan anak gw and dia ngak suka cara gw discipline anak gw. Nah buntut2xnya, ngomongin gw dibelakang deh ma kakak2xnya. Tapi gue orgnya outspoken jadi mrk ngak gitu berani banyak ngomong di depan gw. Jadi kalo tinggal ma in law, lebih baik keep the conversation to a minimum apalagi kalo udah tau mrk tuh the gossip type.

]]> By: Siska http://www.oureverydaythings.com/2008/09/marriage-staying-together-staying-happy-part-ii/#comment-523 Siska Fri, 05 Sep 2008 21:30:30 +0000 http://www.oureverydaythings.com/?p=2239#comment-523 thanks for sharing.... klu ada mertua emang susah yah... gw jg berasa banget klu nyokap dateng ke sini, walaupun cm 3 bln, berasa banget hubungan gw dan damien jadi rapuh. knp yah? gw jg ga gitu ngeh sebetulnya. tp kenyataannya gitu aja. makanya kadang gw suka was2 juga klu nyokap ada disini. mgkn krn gw slalu merasa wkt gw dgn nyokap tuh precious bgt, cuma pendek dan stlh nyokap pulang, mo ktemu susah. jadi gw tend to neglect damien. krn nyokap dan damien ga bs komunikasi, jd susah jg. yg 1 ga bs inggris, yg 1 ga bisa indo.yah bisa dikit2 sih. tp ga cukup utk have proper conversation. thanks for sharing…. klu ada mertua emang susah yah… gw jg berasa banget klu nyokap dateng ke sini, walaupun cm 3 bln, berasa banget hubungan gw dan damien jadi rapuh. knp yah? gw jg ga gitu ngeh sebetulnya. tp kenyataannya gitu aja. makanya kadang gw suka was2 juga klu nyokap ada disini. mgkn krn gw slalu merasa wkt gw dgn nyokap tuh precious bgt, cuma pendek dan stlh nyokap pulang, mo ktemu susah. jadi gw tend to neglect damien. krn nyokap dan damien ga bs komunikasi, jd susah jg. yg 1 ga bs inggris, yg 1 ga bisa indo.yah bisa dikit2 sih. tp ga cukup utk have proper conversation.

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