Oh yah, i think your boy’s bday falls on the same as my boy too? 20th Aug?

Thanks for dropping a comment …
The way I see things, patience comes with ‘practice’ somehow to most of us. Some of us may be born with ‘more’ patience, but most of us need to work on it a lot (or at least learn how to not easily ‘explode’ when tough times come).

Just like being ‘faithful’ to our hubbies, I think Some may wonder/worry if they can remain faithful (and loving) to one man for years and years before they decide on getting married. But then again, being ‘faithful’ and loving itself needs lots of ‘work’ and effort, I think. And after some time, we may become more ‘naturally’ faithful to our spouse, without much ‘effort’. And even then, we still need to keep ‘working on it’. Hmm, am I making sense ?

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Sam:

Hehe … With 3 kids to care for, I’m sure it’d feel like you’ve lost it … And hey, handling older girls and boys like yours are somewhat tougher, I think (compared to handling my two little ones).

I have to say that based on my own experience (so far) here in Singapore, whenever my kids happen to throw tantrums in public, I do notice how people tend to stare more (rather than showing / giving their support to the parents).

Of course there are those make eye contacts with me and smile with understanding. But the percentage of those who seem to be more ‘bothered’ by the scene is somewhat higher, I must say.

I get the ‘I don’t really care’ looks, as well as frowns that seem to say ‘Kids are so troublesome’.

By now, whenever such tantrum episodes happen in public, I tend to just smile and keep on walking with my kid in tow (who’s most likely, kicking and screaming by then), walking away from the spot where the incident started.

I’d then give him / her a good talk at a corner somewhere, hoping to put an end to the whole episode.

It’s a tough phase all parents must go through, I must say.

PS: Based on the general public’s ‘negative’ reaction to tantrums in public here, I personally can’t imagine leaving my kid kicking and screaming in the middle of supermarket for a good 10-15 mins After some 3-4 minutes, I’d most likely bring the kid outside and away from the area. If the kid chooses to still cry and scream despite my attempt to stop the drama, then at least we’re at a corner somewhere, a little bit away from everybody else.

I don’t know if ppl’s reactions towards tantrum throwing toddler (and the toddler’s parents) are different in Singapore, Indon, M’sia. because I realise that Asian are less tolerant ppl. Probably because majority of them can afford to have a nanny to do one on one with the child. But here most ppl are very understanding probably because they went through the phase themselves. They generally don’t get annoyed by screaming toddlers kicking away on the floor. They don’t give me ‘that’ look. I noticed when I was back home, when there’s toddler screaming, ppl threw ‘that’ look at the parents as if they failed their job as parents, not raising their kids properly. So, in a way, I’m lucky that ppl are not judgmental towards me. And for me that takes a huge pressure off my shoulder because sometimes (we can’t help it) we will always think about what other ppl think of me (or the situation)

when my kid threw tantrum, I couldn’t (physically) tow her out of the shop because she was kicking really hard and I just simply hasn’t got the strength to carry her or drag her. Yes, I felt my blood is boiling at this point. but have to keep reminding myself that I’m in a public place and that I have to keep my cool. I had no choice but to say to her, “if you don’t get up, I’m leaving” and like you said, I have to carry out my threats and yes, I’m the mean mother who left my daughter on the supermarket floor. And yes, she’s so stubborn that she wouldn’t care if I leave or not. she wouldn’t chase me. I know you guys probably think that I shouldn’t make my threat to that extent, but I did try to make my threat to the lesser extent, but it just didn’t work. I said we won’t go to the park, I said we won’t go on the rides, I said we won’t go out anymore if you continue to behave like this. I said a lot of threats but it just didn’t work on her. so I just have to leave her. Even that, didn’t work. I will usually walk away far enough for her not able to see me but close enough for me to be able to peek on her. Every 5 mins, I would walk back and ask if she’s ready to go home. usually by the 3rd or 4th time, she has subsided.

And of course for one whole week after that, we didn’t go out at all. Not that I don’t want to. but because I feel that I need to carry out my threat. Remember before I said to her my last threat, in my previous threat, I said we won’t go out anymore. So during that one week, I explained to her daily why we were at home. And usually the following week, she will behave better and before we go out, I repeat my rules to her